Wow so just had something happen this morning that has kind of had me feeling numb.
I had plans to meet up with a friend I have not seen in quite a long time. We were emailing back and forth to figure out where and when we would meet. Then when I woke up this morning I got an email that said. “Our recent emails made me realize that I want to compartmentalize the memories from that part of my life when I knew you. Also we have only talked occasionally for the last 10 years. For these reasons I think it best that we don’t meet.”
I respect their point of view and sent them an email letting them know that. But I have spent the whole day with a heavy feeling.
It’s made me wonder about how I think of things as opposed to how others think of them.
I grew up moving around a lot. I would regularly have to make new friends wherever I went. But if I were to see old friends it was always a happy event. This pattern has existed my whole life. I often am distant from those who I am closest to. But I do make an effort to keep in touch, and I always do my best to try and meet up with them to keep in contact.
I find it strange to think of things otherwise. Having a friend say they would rather not keep in touch because its been too long since we talked, or because they want to remember a person as they were in the past is totally foreign to me.
So right now I have a bunch of feelings going through me. I’m sad, confused, remorseful, and in disbelief.
How do you feel when someone un-friends you in real life. Not just on Facebook? Please leave your comments below.